Three Peninsulas and a Negative Reference

This is Part Four of my one month hitch-hiking trip ‘Round Ireland with a Limp’. Part One, Part Two, Part Three.

To see a map of this part of the route, click here.

The day began fabulously. I made it to Dzogchen Beara just in time for morning meditation and got offered a lift straight afterwards with a lovely woman who had been staying at the Centre after her car went on strike, forcing her to stay and heal from a crumbled relationship.

We chat the drive away, sharing stories of love, death and bitter experience. Sometimes I feel a stranger I just met has been a friends for aeons, and that’s just how this feels with this woman whose name I don’t even know. Driving into Kenmare, a colourful little town where we had agreed to part ways, we decide to continue our discussion over coffee in a veggie bakery-come-cafe. An hour or more later we finally say farewell, and it really does feel like a well-wishing.

I get another short lift and find myself on a quiet road at the start of the infamous Ring of Kerry – one of the most scenic driving routes in Ireland, which skirts round the whole of the Iveragh Peninsula. I draw myself a fancy “Ring of Kerry” sign with a smiley face, and wait.

View from the Ring of Kerry

A delivery van stops. “Where ya headed?” I ask him. “Oh, I’m goin’ round the whole ring.” “Really? Wow!” I chuck my pack in the back and climb in the van next to him. “Yep, just got about thirty stops on the way…” I groan inwardly. Well, at least it will be a scenic drive. John and I drive slowly – oh so slowly – around the picturesque (which, by the way, Irish people pronounce phonetically – “picture-skew”) Ring of Kerry, driving down each and every little road, delivering packets to businesses, stately homes, a golf course and a mink farm, among others. John starts out in a fine mood, stopping for me to take pictures and pointing out landmarks, such as Carauntoohill, Ireland’s highest mountain and various standing stones. By the time we’ve left Waterville though, he’s starting to lose his rag. Several of the packets don’t have proper addresses, no phone number, or the businesses are closed. He’s starting to swear a lot. “Jesus, that’ll be the health centre I’m delivering to now. She’s never there, like. You’d be better off crawling to Kilarney!”

John drops me at Castlemaine and I hitch a little further up the road before taking my customary coffee break at The Phoenix – billed as a “vegetarian restaurant”, but in fact it serves fish and the prices are higher than Carauntoohill. I “uhhm” and “ahh” about getting food anyway, texting my host in Dingle to ask what his dinner plans are. He replies that I should eat there, so I order a soup and head on up the Dingle Peninsula with Helen: my last lift of the day.

Breanainn accepted my couchsurfing request by text message. Since then we’ve been in contact several times and I’m looking forward to meeting him. I’ve never couchsurfed in a van before, but since I lived in one myself for a time, I figure at least we’ll have something in common. I ask how I’m to find him and he replies that he’ll be playing a gig in a pub later and should we meet there? Fine by me. I get into Dingle early and leave my bag at the pub while I explore.

Dingle, a colourful, odd little town

Dingle is a small, jovial, multi-coloured town. I’ve been told it attracts people on the odd side, but then so does Brighton. After a stroll about, I sit and write postcards in the pub and wait for Breaninn. He arrives and goes straight onstage, murmuring a quiet hello to me on his way past the table. He’s playing guitar and the girl is singing, lyrics mostly in Irish. The music is excellent and far exceeds any ‘trad music’ I’ve heard so far in Ireland. There’s a nice atmosphere in the pub, a mixture of locals and tourists.

After the gig, Breanainn says he’s looking forward to talking with me. We sit down and begin a conversation, but a couple of minutes later he’s jumped up and made an excuse to go outside. He seems nervous and kind of jumpy. When he comes back, he says he wants to go and play music in the hostel over the road. It’s already half midnight and I’m totally knackered, but I say “fine” with as much enthusiasm as I can muster and he promises we won’t be out later than 2am. We go to a pub. I mistake this for the hostel bar and buy another pint, but no, we’re just meeting two stoned young guys here and then going to the hostel. The guys finish their pool game and we all go over the road. Breanainn still hasn’t said more than two sentences to me, including the proposal to play more music. We get to the hostel and it’s really just the four of us in the lounge. Breanainn asks to speak to me, so I get up and follow him to the dark kitchen, where he tells me this is his first time hosting in his van and he’s changed his mind. He’s very tired and he just wants to go to bed. Alone. It’s now around 1am. He says it’s ok, he’s sorted it out so that I can stay in the hostel for free. He hopes I’m not pissed-off with him. He sticks his arms out and says, “Can I have a hug?” I think this is totally weird, but I hug him – whereby he lifts me right into the air and down again, then says goodbye and leaves.

Back in the lounge I mention this to the guys, who agree that he is actually a very strange person. It seems like they don’t know him very well. One of them asks if I want to stay in the hostel.. “but.. didn’t he sort it out? I mean, he said I could stay here for free..” “Ohh noooo,” the ginger-headed guy rubs his face in his hands. “Oh god, I’m always letting people stay here – shit – I’m gonna get in so much trouble!” “No no, hang on, it’s not you who ought to be in trouble, this is Breanainn’s fault!” I call Breanainn before they have a chance to stop me and tell him – “hey, you didn’t ‘sort it out’ in the hostel – these guys want money!” “Ok, I’ll come right now with money, ok?” “…ok.” I’ve been drinking a bit while waiting and feel my inner emotional drunk trying to unleash herself. I go to the toilet to push back tears. When I come out, the ginger guy is clutching some notes – “Woohoo! You can choose whatever bed you like!” he grins. “You can have breakfast! You can have whatever you want!” “You should give her some of that money for food or something.” says the other one. “No, I don’t want it,” I tell them, “I just want a place to sleep.” I don’t want to know how much money he’s given them and I don’t ask, but the ginger guy puts me in an eight bed dorm on my own, with an en-suit shower and toilet.

Just before Breanainn left, he offered me a lift to Tralee the following day and we arranged to meet at a petrol station at 1pm. I wait for him for precisely fifteen minutes before sticking out my thumb. I haven’t even finished making my “Tralee” sign when a nice old couple pull over. Jean and Eileen introduce themselves. “Have you seen the Conor Pass yet?” Jean asks. “No”, I tell him. “Right!” he says to his wife. “We’re going over the Conor Pass!”

View from the Conor Pass

The Conor Pass, John tells me, is the highest navigable pass in Ireland. He stops at the top for me to take a picture and continues his tour commentary as we drive on. “That there is Mount Brandon – that’s the second highest peak in Ireland – and that there’s the Slieve Mish mountain range.” We pass a beach. “There was a surfing championship here three weeks ago. When they arrived, there was not a wave. Then three days later, there was a storm!” He looks out over the ocean. “Oh, it gets pretty wild out there!” he says.

Later, at my friend Rob’s house, I leave a neutral reference for Beanainn on his Couchsurfing profile, trying my best to explain what happened objectively. I receive a NEGATIVE one in return:
“With Couchsurfing you win some you lose some. I lost on this occasion.

It didn’t help that Jo was a day late, I had a gig on the night she arrived
and she more or less insisted we meet at the pub.

30 secs into conversation I sensed I didn’t want Jo in my small space.
Though I would be an accommodating person I did not want this woman in a
confined space with me.

I felt couchsurfing to Jo was about getting things for nothing. I paid for
her hostel though, as I felt it was my mistake for having accepted her
request, but I also learnt an important lesson about hosting in my van.
There are some people I won’t want to host as ‘cabin fever’ could set in.

Regarding the lift the next day, it’s unfair of Jo to say I didn’t turn up,
she never confirmed she would take the lift.

I wish Jo the best in her learning and journey.”

He later changed it to a neutral one after I wrote to him seeking an explanation. I’m still not sure what happened.

4 thoughts on “Three Peninsulas and a Negative Reference

  1. Some couch surfers are just damn crazy…but I think you can spot them from a mile away while reading their profile if you have enough experience. That doesn’t mean we don’t pick the wrong host every now and then. I myself had a truly weird experience with a first time host recently too. If you want a little bit more background on who I am, then check out my blog at http://Wanderingamerican.com/ I’m also a Hitchhiker and CSer as well.

  2. Hiya Jo, trying to figure out here how to write you an email on here, but a comment it will be I guess. I was just googling for hitching out of Ireland, from Dzogchen Beara… I arrived here the day after you made this posting. And I recognised your blog address from the hitchgathering listserv.. anyway, in the chance you’re still around this area and hitching onwards soon, I shall be making my way to Berlin sometime next week after a sojourn of a few days in Dublin. Send me a message if you would like to join thumbs for a stretch.

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